A conversation:
J: How are you feeling?
Me: Fair.
J: Why fair?
Me: Several things are weighing heavy on me.
J: Don't let them get to you.
Me: They already are.
J: You shouldn't let that happen. I can't believe you are letting that happen.
Me: Well, things are not always good. There are times when one is vulnerable to outer forces.
J: Just believe that all will be okay.
Me: Right now, I can't.
J: Well, don't get an attitude.
Me: I already have one, and you aren't helping.
Must everyone feel happy go lucky each and every day?
Can't an individual feel bad at times?
When that person feels bad, honor those feelings by being supportive - not criticizing.
Realize that sometimes a person must go through a funk and there's nothing you can do about it.
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
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I get that too. I want to say "Look I already feel crummy and now you want me to feel guilty about how I'm feeling because I shouldn't feel that way?" Otherwise you end up with bottled emotions, really not healthy!!
So true! It is not healthy at all.
If people ask me how I'm feeling I always answer honestly. Not many people that know me ask me how I'm feeling anymore. Does that say a lot about me, or them?
Wow, this post totally speaks to me... I'm with you ragey!!!! :)
((( Ragey )))
I think people expect a response of "I'm fine" or "I'm doing good," etc. They are thrown off when you really tell them how you feel.
I don't see the point in denying my feelings, and I don't want for others to belittle how I feel.
Ugh. I think one of the biggest tensions in my life with my mom growing up was over her not validating my feelings. Because I was diabetic, any time I was angry or upset or grumpy, she would say "Go check your blood sugars." Often, yes, there was a correlation between the volume at which I expressed my irritation or exasperation with life and my blood sugars. But it didn't mean that that was the cause and thus everything could be dismissed.
Eventually, I moved away and yelled at her enough times when she said that that she stopped.
Anyway, I'm sorry you're only feeling "fair." I hope things get better for you!
Oh, an interesting side note on cultural differences:
In Arab culture, when someone asks how you are you always say you're fine, good, etc., through the lengthy greeting. Once you've sat down to socialize, it's all fair game. But during the first (5) minutes of greetings, you're not supposed to talk about negative stuff.
Life - I can definitely see how that would be annoying with the diabetes and all. Sorry you were put through that!
That is quite an interesting note about Arab culture. I didn't know that previously.
Yeah, feeling the frustration!
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