I really dislike it when my time is not valued. One thing I dislike is being late for an appointment or when the party I'm with is late. If you tell me to be somewhere at 10:05, it is likely that I'm going to be there at 10:00. I don't want you waiting on my especially if you are doing something to benefit me. I think it is very rude to disrespect someone's time. We all have things to do and if you are taking your time to be of assistance to me, the least I can do is respect your time.
Unfortunately everyone doesn't have that same mindset. Why is that? Why wouldn't they want their time respected? You know, do unto others...
I guess some really don't care, and I had the misfortune of being the disrespected today. Well, I tell ya what, it won't happen again.
A young lady, that is a student at local college, asked me to get her an appointment at my hair salon. My first issue is that I go to the salon directly from work. It takes me about 20 minutes to get there at that time. The young lady's college is 20 minutes in the other direction. That means I have to back track 20 minutes then turnaround and go to the salon, passing back by wehre I work. Okay. Fine. I agreed.
Yesterday, I told her to meet me at 10:30 in front of Building X on the stop sign side. I indicated it would be quicker than me going all of the way to the back of the campus to the dorms. Fine.
This morning, at 10:05, I sent her a text message stating I was leaving my office in 5 min. and to meet me on the stairs side of Building X instead (it would be easier to turn around there). I placed my phone in my purse (it was on silent), spoke with a colleague, and headed out. About 7 minutes away from the campus I pulled my phone out of my purse and saw that I had a missed call from her. I immediately thought she was calling to cancel and that wouldn't have been good since I was so close to campus.
I didn't call at that point due to driving and I was so close. When I parked it was 10:29. No sign of the young lady. She didn't leave a message (which I dislike, but I digress) so I called her back. I stated that I was there...she said she had just left her dorm (um, what?) and she was running late. argh! 15 min. later she comes strolling up all casual (why no walking fast?) She gets in the car and apologizes.
Did you get out of class late?
No, I didn't go to class. I overslept. Your text woke me up.
Um, what? Oh gracious, I was pissed. Needless to say, we're going to be late. @#$!%
She attempts to make small talk in the car. I'm not rude, but seething inside. I ask her about the salon that used to in the student union (which is where her mother suggested she go):
Is there not a salon in the union anymore?
Oh yeah, there is. I just don't want to walk over there.
*&^%$#%^#@!*%$ I know, I just know she didn't say she didn't want to walk over to the union. Um, that's all of 1/4 of a mile. You're 18 years old. You can't walk 1/4 of a mile?!?!
Yet, I'm driving 20 minutes out of MY way. You arrive 15 min. after the designated time, and you can't walk 1/4 of a mile? Oh no, never again. Don't ask, 'cause it's not going to happen. Sorry. No can do.
How inconsiderate.
Oh, I did get offered lunch after we were done at the salon. She stated she was hungry and wanted to get me something to eat for taking her. I asked her where she wanted to go? She had to think for a minute and then came up with McDonald's.
Yuck!
Um, no thanks. Yes, I know she's 18 and that's what she likes, but I don't. Sorry. No can do. About the only thing I'll eat there are french fries and I steer clear of them. I told her I had plans to meet friends (which I did) in a little bit and I was just going to wait (though I was hungry).
Can I tell you pissed I was? I was pissed to the highest pissitivity (I don't think that's a word!).
Best believe, if she wants to go to get her hair done, she needs to go to the salon that is on campus. Plain and simple.
My time is my time.